Living in Alignment: A Journey Back to Self-Trust and Growth

Friend,

Let’s be real. The blog posts have been good and neutral, but NOTHING like the 2022 version of Girl, Finally. When I first created Girl, Finally, my goal was to create a safe space, share my personal experiences, and combine them with practical, universal truths. I wanted to connect with other like-minded women who have similar experiences and help as many women learn to ‘come home to themselves’ as I can. I’m proud that I’ve done just that. Thank you for all of the support and for sharing your stories with me. I look forward to our continued growth.

2024 was full of surprises. I had a miscarriage, moved out of my home of five years, gained forty pounds, and lost two of my closest friends. They aren’t dead—we’re just no longer friends. I younger version of me wouldn’t have been okay a with that - my friends are my heart, but at 28, I’m more secure in my all of relationships than ever and know that some people are only seasonal and that is okay. This doesn’t mean that they are perfect, this also doesn’t mean that those relationship are over. They just don’t align with the version of who I am now and the woman I am working toward becoming. It’s easy to harp on the trials of 2024, but honestly, I have never felt more blessed! I am someone who believes I am always exactly where I am supposed to be with who I am supposed to be with. Even through the toughest moments, I’ve found gratitude.

The other side of 2024 is this: I saved more money than ever, grew in my professional career, became more intentional in my relationships, learned my parenting style as we navigate the “preteen” years, set boundaries like none other, and prioritized my emotional well-being by not giving so much to takers. I have lived, I have learned, and I am proud.

My life feels better than ever now, knowing I am putting my best foot forward at every level. My best looks better every day—as does yours—and some days, good is good enough, lol. This year, 2025, I have a big goal: to learn to trust myself again.

In dating, in friendships, at work—wherever. I have always been super intuitive and trusted my instincts, but that connection has become a bit blurry over the last couple of years. This journey is deeply personal and starts with me being honest about when I stopped trusting myself. I can pinpoint moments—and certain people—when I silenced my intuition or made choices that didn’t align with my values. Those moments left me questioning my own judgment, but they also taught me something important: trusting yourself isn’t about never making mistakes—it’s about learning from them and honoring your truth moving forward.

I’ve always taken heed of the quote, “You are who you keep around you.” But it wasn’t until I personally felt the impact of keeping people around who don’t share the same values that I truly understood it. It’s exhausting being the only friend actively pursuing the life you want or the only one in a relationship looking forward and not staying stagnant. Now, that’s not to blame anyone for my shortcomings, but it is eye-opening to realize I was subconsciously minimizing myself to soothe the egos of others.

That stops now. Well, it actually stopped a couple of months ago. It just feels good seeing it in the rear view.

Honoring Your Truth

Recognizing when I silenced my intuition has been transformative. It taught me that trusting yourself isn’t about perfection—it’s about learning, growing, and listening to your inner voice. Rebuilding self-trust has been a journey of reflection, boundary-setting, and choosing relationships that honor who I truly am.

Five Steps to Rebuild Trust With Yourself

If you’re on a similar journey, here are five practical steps to help you:

1. Reflect on Your Journey
   Take time to journal or meditate on moments when you stopped trusting yourself. Be honest about what happened, how it made you feel, and what you’ve learned. Honesty is the foundation of rebuilding trust.

2. Clarify Your Values and Intentions
   Get clear on what truly matters to you—your values, goals, and priorities. Let these guide your decisions and help you align with your true self.

3. Start Small and Keep Promises to Yourself
   Rebuild trust by making small commitments, like sticking to a morning routine or prioritizing self-care. Celebrate these wins to reinforce confidence in your ability to follow through.

4. Surround Yourself With Alignment
   Be intentional about the people in your life. Choose relationships that encourage your growth and reflect your values. Let go of connections that drain you or require you to minimize yourself.

5. Honor Your Intuition and Boundaries
   Reconnect with your inner voice by practicing mindfulness or quiet reflection. Pay attention to how decisions feel in your body, and trust that your intuition knows what’s best. Set boundaries that protect your peace and respect your emotional well-being.

Your Journey Awaits

Friend, trusting yourself again is one of the most empowering journeys you’ll ever take. It’s about embracing your mistakes, honoring your truth, and walking confidently in the direction of your dreams.

Picture this: You’re sitting in a quiet moment of reflection, and for the first time in a long time, you feel a deep sense of peace—not because life is perfect, but because you’re in alignment with yourself. This is the gift of self-trust. Coming home to myself in this season is me getting back to the woman I trusted most.

This journey is yours to define. The trust you build within yourself will transform your relationships, decisions, and overall sense of peace. You deserve a life that aligns with your values, dreams, and the love you have for yourself.

Here’s to 2025—a year of growth, self-trust, and unapologetically living in alignment with your truth. Trust yourself—you’re worth it. I’m talking to us both. Accountability partners? I say let’s do it!

With love,
T 🌹